“I wish I would’ve…” No one wants to mutter this on their deathbed. That’s the type of statement that screams “regret.” Having regret isn’t bad, necessarily. Like, I regret not studying abroad in college. I regret not having learned how to surf when I lived in Hawaii. Now, my life is great despite not having these … Learn More
I spent a few moments reflecting on what it’d be like to be the President of the United States and being, arguably, the most powerful person in the world. It wasn’t intoxicating, I promise you. I was in awe of the responsibility. I thought about… – The intelligent people I’d want surrounding me to shore up … Learn More
One of the “glories” of being a mom to two teenagers is that they’re quick to point out my inconsistencies. It’s like I’ve got the hypocrite police on my back all the time. The value of this is that I’m always asking myself – am I modeling the behaviors I expect them to demonstrate? Or, am … Learn More
Do you feel stuck? In these situations, it’s easy to blame externalities: Do you know what’s hard? Sitting quiet with your thoughts and admitting you’re the one who created the situation…and you’re the only one who can lead yourself out of it. Absolute accountability is painful. It’s the only way to a better place. Accountability is … Learn More
“If you’re going to do nothing, do it on purpose.” My friend, Allen Meacham, shared this idea with me. It was so meaningful I included this idea in my book, SPARK. In our busy lives, it’s hard to imagine that doing nothing can have its benefits. For my ultra-busy coaching clients, I know the idea of … Learn More
My friend Shannon and I grabbed a glass of wine recently at a local vineyard. We don’t do this enough. She’s a former CIA Officer; her life’s story is an inspirational tale of resiliency, self-compassion, and personal growth. (She was my first Bet on You Podcast guest, by the way. Listen in by clicking here.) I love talking with … Learn More
Stop what you’re doing. I want you to take a good, hard look at yourself: – Where are you? – What are you doing? – What’s your current mood? – How does your body feel? – What’s your outlook on life? How’d you do with your inventory? Feeling good … Learn More
Building confidence is a never-ending pursuit. In SPARK, my co-authors and I highlighted four key strategies to building unshakeable confidence, which included this concept of “developing positive self-appraisals.” In other words, self-talk. The words we tell ourselves have a significant influence over how we perform in the experience we’re about to enter. If we say, … Learn More
When anyone thanks me for their service, I’ve got to admit that I get a little uncomfortable. After all, I served during peacetime. I was in my early 20’s, stationed primarily in Hawaii, and drove a Jeep Wrangler – I was living my best life. I actually should be thanking you, tax payers, for my … Learn More
I’m not too proud to admit that I’ve been jealous before. The earliest memory I have is when I went to summer camp in elementary school with a friend, Mindy. Mindy was the life of the party – all the camp counselors gave her attention. Fellow campers wanted to sit next to her during campfires. … Learn More
My family and I approach conflict from different starting points. They’re completely comfortable engaging in a disagreement, and do so freely…and, to be honest, sometimes unnecessarily. ☺ I’m completely comfortable sweeping things under the rug…until two years later, which is when I lift up the rug and show the offending party the unresolved issue that’s … Learn More
In our binary win/lose world, how can you create a win-win? My oldest son, Judge, and I were talking the other day about how everything in our society feels so divisive – sports competitions inevitably produce winners and losers, the election where you’re either blue or red, pro or anti-TikTok, and so on. We discussed … Learn More
