You Need Help. Here’s How to Get It. Your breakthrough will come from the sage advice of a champion or friend. How to Ask for Help. Many consider asking for help to be a sign of weakness. It’s acknowledging that you don’t know everything and feels like it signals to others that you’re incompetent, imperfect, and … Learn More
Building confidence is a never-ending pursuit. In SPARK, my co-authors and I highlighted four key strategies to building unshakeable confidence, which included this concept of “developing positive self-appraisals.” In other words, self-talk. The words we tell ourselves have a significant influence over how we perform in the experience we’re about to enter. If we say, … Learn More
In the Marines, workplace attire was pretty simple. When I transitioned into pharmaceutical sales, life got a lot more complex. Now, as a keynote speaker and consultant, I find that I’m always thinking about what I wear … and connecting that with what I hope to project. I’ve learned a few things along the way: … Learn More
When anyone thanks me for their service, I’ve got to admit that I get a little uncomfortable. After all, I served during peacetime. I was in my early 20’s, stationed primarily in Hawaii, and drove a Jeep Wrangler – I was living my best life. I actually should be thanking you, tax payers, for my … Learn More
If there’s one thing I hate* about myself is that I’m a people pleaser. Why? Ugh. And I hate this, too. It’s because I like to make other people happy and I want to be liked. I can’t believe I just “said” that all out loud … but it’s true. Here’s one thing I know: … Learn More
My fears cross my mind dozens of times each day: “Will these jeans ever fit again?” “What if that video you created makes you look like an idiot?” “I gave my son the right guidance, didn’t I?” My fears remind me of my flaws, shortcomings, and areas of my life where I’m incredibly vulnerable. I … Learn More
We look to psychics more than our financial advisors for life guidance. I read this in an article last week and I couldn’t help but laugh. I visited a psychic with friends a few week ago…and I haven’t talked to my financial advisor in a few months. What does this say about me, us…our society? … Learn More
Try something new when you receive a compliment, just say thank you!
One of my earliest memories of selfishness is when my dad gave me a stick of gum and asked me to share it with my sister. I took 3/4s of it and gave her the rest. (Sorry, Jenni.) I was probably 5 years old then. What motivated my selfishness? I’m sure it was a scarcity … Learn More
The gorillas are the emotional barometer in a zoo. I learned this recently from a leader at an engineering design firm. He was talking about a project he led inside a zoo; construction would stop and start based on the gorillas’ moods. If the gorillas were happy, the construction would commence. If the gorillas weren’t … Learn More
My well-intentioned mom told me to marry rich. She often hinted that many girls go to college to get their “MRS” degree and it wouldn’t hurt to study at the law library. (Subtle, mom!) For some reason, she believed personal ambitions were best achieved through someone else. Fortunately, my mom was highly supportive of me … Learn More
Sometimes our natural tendencies do not serve us well.
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